If you wouldn’t want your daughter to emulate the woman you’re with, don’t marry her.

Listen up, Men!

If you wouldn’t want your daughter to emulate the woman you’re with, don’t marry her. Why? Because the woman you choose as a wife will shape the future of your family. She’ll influence your children’s values, their mindset, and their understanding of what it means to be a woman. The mother of your children is not just your partner—she’s the standard your daughter will look to and your son will respect (or not).

Marrying a woman with no morals, discipline, or integrity sends a loud message to your future kids: This is what’s acceptable. A wife who lacks character, who’s reckless, disrespectful, or shallow, will pass those traits on to your children. And trust me, you’ll live to regret it when you see your daughter walking the same broken path you ignored in your wife.

A strong, virtuous woman teaches her children by example. She shows your daughter what self-respect looks like. She shows your son what a real woman is. But if you settle for someone who lacks these qualities, don’t be shocked when your children grow up confused, misguided, or resentful of the environment you created.

This isn’t about perfection—it’s about standards. Choose a woman who embodies the values you want your family to carry. A woman who can raise your kids with strength, kindness, and discipline. A woman who doesn’t just look good but is good.

Men, your legacy begins with your wife. Don’t marry for looks, lust, or convenience. Marry for character, integrity, and the ability to build a future together. Because the woman you marry will shape the generation you leave behind. Choose wisely. Your children—and their children—depend on it.

Aklahyel Goni