WHAT LEADS PEOPLE TO CHEAT?EVER ASKED YOURSELF OR YOUR PARTNER WHY THEY CHEAT?👇

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  1. RUSHED MARRIAGES
    A lot of people are getting married for society, for their parents, because they had a baby together or just to be called husband and wife. This rush into marriage or getting married for the wrong reasons will lead you to struggle to be faithful after marriage to a stranger or someone you don’t connect with. A connection can be worked on if you both are willing but if the other part isn’t then one might find themselves outside,
  2. EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
    The key component of a relationship/marriage is companionship. If you don’t attend to your partner’s emotional needs, someone else who values your partner more will be willing to do so. Most affairs start as an emotional bond. Cultivate emotional intimacy between you two, communicate warmly and often, don’t push your partner away. Create no vacuum between you two,
  3. OLD HABITS
    If during your singlehood or younger years or in your past relationships you used to be casual about sex and you don’t deal with your past, you will do the same in marriage. Take stock of your habits. Leave behind dangerous habits,
  4. BAD COMPANY
    The wrong friends will incite you to be unfaithful and even cover up for you because most likely they are also having affairs. Surround yourself with friends who will keep you accountable, guide you to the right path that will save your marriage,
  5. SEXUAL FRUSTRATION
    When your sexual needs are not met at home, when you have a wife who keeps making excuses or seems not interested in making love, when you have a husband who makes having sex all about him or who no longer desires you; this can lead to a frustration that makes you vulnerable to temptation. Take care of each other’s sexual needs. Husbands, learn to touch your wife, to foreplay, and how to give her pleasure even if your erection doesn’t last or you ejacluate too soon. Wives, learn to be sexually engaged, to communicate what you want and to seduce your husband,
  6. PERPETUAL MISUNDERSTANDING
    If you two keep arguing over the same issue, you will grow apart. Soon, you will find someone of the opposite gender to vent to and who will make you feel more understood than your spouse does and an affair will sprout. Learn to solve issues quickly as a couple and bounce back to normalcy, seek to understand each other, keep off the little foxes
  7. WORKING ENVIRONMENT
    For many, the current working environment is not pro-family. You spend five or sometimes six days a week at work, early morning till evening, spending more time with colleagues who sometimes wear seductively or flirt a lot as you give your spouse and children the exhausted you. This is why a lot of affairs happen at work. The one you spend more time with you create a bond with you. Be deliberate about spending time with your spouse, come home early, let your spouse know your close colleagues, take a shower immediately when you come home to give your spouse a fresh you,
  8. LUST
    Lust makes you self centered and leads to a sex addiction that is all about you and your orgasms. This will lead you to use multiple people even when you have someone you should be committed to. The cure for lust is love. Think more about your spouse than just yourself. Get an accountable partner, seek counselling… ignore messages, social media Groups and sex talks that fuel lust, feed your mind and soul with other constructive things or hobbies
  9. DISTANCE:
    Distance exposes you both to potential temptation as it robs you face to face interaction which grows intimacy. If you lack self discipline, you might fall for someone physically close to you to take the place of the one who is far from you. If you are in a long distance relationship/marriage, use technology to communicate often, be accountable to each other about where you are and with who, end the season of being far from each other as soon as possible,
  10. INNOCENT HELP TURNED ROMANTIC
    A lot of affairs by good hearted people start as a genuine desire to help someone of the opposite gender, only for romantic feelings to develop because the helper and the one being helped start to feel needed. It is good to help but when you help someone of the opposite gender, involve your spouse. After helping, set healthy boundaries to never cross,
  11. CAREER
    Some careers will put you in sexually charged environments or cause you to travel a lot and if you are weak, you will have sexual encounters with others. As you pursue a profession you love, keep your family as a priority. Don’t mix professional life with emotional feelings meant for your spouse only,
  12. REVENGE
    Some people become unfaithful because their spouse was/is unfaithful. You might think that you are punishing your spouse but actually you are stooping low as you abandon your principles. Just because you are hurt doesn’t mean you go out of character. Don’t let your spouse’s mistakes make you become who you are not.
    You are who you are and never let any situation push you to have bad habits,
  13. IDENTITY CRISIS
    When you have a low self esteem and doubt yourself, it is easy to use your sex appeal to give you a confidence boost. As a man, you will find yourself pursuing multiple women to have sex with them just to prove you can. As a woman, you will find yourself entertaining men, flirting with them and having sex with them to see if truly you are beautiful. Find yourself and love yourself. When you are lost, you will hurt those around you, especially your spouse and kids,
  14. PORNOGRAPHY
    Once your mind gets used to desiring images and videos of pornstars, soon, your mind will want real sex with others as you have trained it to desire more than your spouse. Teach your mind to focus on your spouse alone. Stop allowing porn to distract you, ignore or avoid it
  15. FINANCIAL STRUGGLES
    Some people are sleeping with their employers, bosses, clients or financiers to get a job or a promotion. If you used sex to get it, you will use sex to keep it. The blackmail may never end and you won’t have a choice. Don’t be a sex slave to a boss who doesn’t value your potential and merit. Your spouse will not be happy eating food or living in a house which you had to give your body to get. Your guilt will ruin your marriage. Find noble ways to prosper,
  16. CURIOSITY
    When you’re curious about threesomes, orgies, how sex with other people of different ages, tribes or cultures feels like, you will find yourself in a complicated mess. Marriage is not for curious people but committed people, choose to be committed in any situation
  17. FALSE ACCUSATIONS
    Some people get so disappointed that their spouse accuses them of cheating so they go on to cheat to prove their spouse right. This solves nothing but compounds problems in marriage. If you know you are innocent, assure your spouse to help deal with his/her fears and insecurities, it can be how you are presenting yourself or moving around suspiciously. Deal with what’s making them suspect you instead of actually cheating on them,
  18. ALCHOHOL
    Many have found themselves waking up in bed with someone not their spouse because of alcohol and they don’t know how it happened. If alcohol makes you do things you regret, why drink?
    Limit it or don’t drink it all
  19. IMPATIENCE
    Some people give up on their marriage too easily and quickly and once you have emotionally checked out, your body will yield to other people’s bodies. Marriage is not for quitters. Don’t be irrational, quiting your marriage then wanting it back, you create space for cheating for either you or your spouse
  20. UNFINISHED BUSINESS
    An ex that you were sexually involved with can be a huge threat to your marriage, especially if you didn’t fully end things. You will find yourself running to him/her when things between you and your spouse are bad, and due to history, things can get intimate very quick. Close the door to your past. If you are weak, block your ex. Don’t let your spouse who is your present and future, be uncomfortable about your past,
  21. FRIENDS WITH BLURRED LINES
    A friend of the opposite gender can get so close that you let your guard down and boundaries get crossed. Learn to draw the line especially when you feel you are being drawned away from your spouse to the point where you are defending your friend but ignoring your spouse,
  22. LACK OF VISION
    When you and your spouse have nothing to look up to together and you have reduced your marriage to just doing chores and paying bills, you will easily abandon your marriage and build a vision with another. Come up with a joint vision as a couple. People commit best when they know where they are going, and commitment coming from both sides.

When married life changes as well as some habits. Learn to adjust into marriage life, make adjustments fast, understand your new status fast and focus on your marriage.
Don’t realise this too late.


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